I know of an innocent, down to earth, sweet young married couple. No priors if you will. They took a wrong turn, involving morals . The JC had no problem having them confess their sin. Very repentant. Still their heads were put on the chopping block.
Prior to the annoucement to the congregation and so as not to shock us (as we are close friends) Jim and Sally visited us to informed us that they were being DF'd.
First question from my wife to them was: Are you both sorry? Answer: A tearful yes from both of them. Another question from my wife: Were you both expecting to be DF'd for the offense? Answer: No.
My wife then turns to me and asks: Then why are they being DF'd?
My answer to my wife and to Jim and Sally: Just as we live in a 'sue happy' society, we also are members of a Society (WTBTS) that is 'disfellowship happy' and so are many of the Elder Body in our congregation.
I personally know the 3 elders on the JC............Jim and Sally didn't stand a chance.
You are soo right, oompa, repentance is not enough. Too many times JCs want BLOOD!
Unlike Jesus Christ, Judicial Committees can be mean, spiteful, merciless and harsh. They want you to BLEED!
Wish you and your sons well.